Yes, when we defend or argue for our weaknesses, we don’t change. We can see this from two perspectives: The inside-out and the outside-in. Inside-out has to do with how we talk to ourselves and, more importantly, how we convince ourselves not to do or say what could positively change our lives. Outside-in looks at the impact on ourselves and others—specifically, our teams and organizations—when we defend, rationalize, or justify our ineffective behaviors when we get derailed.